We Met At Acme

We Met At Acme

Are You Too Nice?

It's starting to feel like you are.

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Lindsey Metselaar
Feb 04, 2026
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We all have consumed tons of content around dating such as “Why Men Love Bitches” and the “black cat and golden retriever” theory. You’ve heard that and maybe you’ve wondered, “do I need to be meaner?” And I’m sorry to say but the truth is you do.

As women, we tend to lean empath. It’s just how we are conditioned. That is positive for so many reasons, but the negative is that we can be too quick to forgive, especially when we really like someone. Not everyone deserves our kindness all the time, especially when it’s someone we are newly dating.

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