The Rules For Social Media When Dating
So jealous that our parents never had to think about this.
You just started dating someone and you are both on Instagram. Now what?! Here are some loose guidelines for social media when newly dating, official, and married. Like all of the rules, you take what works for you and leave the rest.
Rules for newly dating
Let them follow you first. The exception to this is if they literally never use social media, but this is a list that applies to two individuals who are active on social.
No grid posts until official. I can’t tell you how many times I got excited and grid posted them before we were official. Never lasted. Kiss of death.
Try not to go through his following list and spiral. Unless it is literally all Instagram models and naked women, don’t make assumptions.
If you’re really active on social, muting them might be a good idea at first. That way, you won’t accidentally view their story the first 36 seconds it’s up.
Don’t check your story 100x a day to make sure they viewed it either. And if you’re going to do this, don’t post stories at all! It’s a slipper slope to crazy town.
Be cool. Don’t be all uncool. AKA don’t blow up their social media, especially before official. You don’t need to reply to all their stories and you’d better not comment on any of their posts. That’s a girlfriend privilege.
Our first selfie in Feb 2020!
Rules for once official
Do everything in your power not to make them unfollow or block people in their life. It’s really not a good look to come into someone’s life and start trying to control their social media. And it’s not a good sign that you’d have to.
Ideally wait to post them until they’ve posted you. If they are not a big poster, you can of course post them first.
Hype up each other’s content! You should be the other’s biggest fan. Just lean in the funny direction, not in the cringe “that’s my baby I love so much goo goo ga ga” direction.
I don’t know who has to hear this, but you don’t need to repost your significant other’s stories that they tag you in.
Rules for when married
We love your love, but you don’t need to write a 4-5 paragraph essay on their birthday! It’s giving something is wrong in the marriage, or I am making amends for something bad I did. Either way, keep it short and sweet!
All your previous posts of exes should be deleted at this point. Unless your spouse doesn’t mind, in which, who cares! It’s part of your past. Let it be!
Be respectful to your partner. Instagram how you’d want to be Instagrammed.
Hope everyone is having an amazing holiday break and has a wonderful New Years Eve! See you in 2025.
L