You Need To Be The Crazy One
If you want your relationship to work. I'm talking to you, ladies.
If you know me, you know I’m a little crazy. Many of us are in our own ways. Women are so dynamic and unique. In dating, men usually don’t know what they are looking for until they find it. What they are looking for is a brand of crazy they can get behind, no pun intended.
Steven and I have now been together for almost 5 years. If it’s not obvious, he is more level headed than I am. He grounds me in a lot of ways. He doesn’t suffer from mental illness. Sure, he has some anxiety, but you get it. Now let me be very clear, I don’t mean you should be:
toxic
harmful
abusive
disloyal
What I mean is, if there are issues, you should primarily be the reason for them. If it’s your male partner who is creating them, you are in a shitty, and honestly scary situation. And if your partner is making you crazy (vs you just being the little fun little silly crazy that you are) that is a different situation entirely. The facts are the facts, and the facts here are that men who can’t control their emotions are terrifying. See OJ Simpson for example.
When women can’t control their emotions, yes, it’s a wild ride, but it’s at least entertaining. It’s expected. You know that you have to strap in and wait for it to be over. You have to feed them, hug them, satisfy our immediate needs. But if you have a moody, unhinged man on your hands you are in for a lifetime of:
making excuses for them
withholding from your friends
tiptoeing
and potential further harm down the line
So, if you have a little crazy in you like I do, find that balance. And never get rid of your crazy, because it’s the brand that they love.
L